Many a times we attract people who are wrong for us,why do we attract people who give us pain and trauma? Why do we attract people in our life who don’t value us?The answer is very simple we our selves.
We have two selves residing in us.
1- The “Spiritual Self”
2-The “Ego self”
The ego self is that part of us who always feels incomplete.Most of the time it is wounded because it does not value itself,it always questions it’s own worth, feels unloved and finds self faults.This ego self carries the magnet of attracting the wrong people.
On the other hand, the Spiritual Self is filled with love, truth, wisdom and peace.The Spiritual Self knows, without a doubt, how loveable and valuable it is.
We operate from one of these two selves. Many of us mostly operate from the ego self .We are constantly trying to complete ourself,fill the lack with physical things good job,good partner,vacations etc,but these things do not give fulfilment for long because the ego self’s very nature is to feel incomplete.Operating from this self makes life feel gloomy and sad.
Most of the wounds that the ego self creates is in relationships as we have been hurt or disappointed in our past relationships we carry the memory of this wound unconsciously.If a wound from childhood is still active within us , we attract people who are going to highlight the same feeling. For example, if our wound is centred around feeling rejected or been unloved in childhood ,it’s likely that we will have similar feelings in our relationships as an adult.Our subconscious programmes attract the people who activate the wound.
Ones we identify that we are operating from ego self then this is the time of us for growth,it is painful but now our soul wants our attention ,it wants us to heal our wounds.The uncomfortable feeling has to come to the surface for us to grow beyond it.Unfortunately,nothing inspires us to grow more than a broken heart.
We need to grow by accepting that we need to change.The shift has to be created from ego to spiritual self.
I am worthy
I am loveable
I am special
I am important
This is what the spiritual self knows and it wants us to know it, too.It wants us to know who we really are,it wants us to reclaim the love within us so that it spreads in all the areas of our life.It wants us to be whole and complete on our own knowing that all other relationships compliment us.